Gaining Independence One Step at a Time

Walking Free of Unhealthy Psychological Dependence

In our last blog, The Perils of Unhealthy Psychological Dependence, we talked about the nature of unhealthy psychological dependence on others and how to know if you are suffering from the signs of such dependence. We also talked about the consequences of having someone that dependent upon you, including emotional exhaustion.

We continued the discussion in my podcast by the same title in which we reviewed how such unhealthy dependence develops and why. In addition, we touched on some steps to walking free of such dependence and learning to be "healthily interdependent" in which there is give and take both ways. In healthy interdependence, each partner is able to make important life decisions on their own and erect appropriate boundaries such that no one gets taken advantage of in the relationship.

To walk free of being overly dependent on others means taking daily steps to combat the underlying nature and beliefs laid down over years that created such dependence. Only by "violating" these beliefs through repeated action can you learn that your fears have been largely unfounded. Rather, you don't lack the raw ability to act independently but lack the skills and practice needed to develop the confidence that you actually can be more independent.

Additional Resources

To receive a free 12-week guide for making these steps, sign up here: Gaining Independence Guide. In this free 12-week guide, we'll cover topics such as setting boundaries, fear of abandonment, cultivating a sense of identity, and much more! Get your guide today and begin your walk toward healthy indecencies within yourself and healthy interdependence with others.

One last tip. Don't forget that with any plan of action for change...you must actually take these steps consistently over time to fully seat your new skill. Set for yourself 3-month, 6-month, and 12-month goals and be sure to celebrate your success along the way. Journaling is a great way to record your progress and any format will do. For those who would like a more detailed guide and journal with weekly tips and exercises, you can purchase this optional workbook here: Walking Free: A 52-Week Guided Workbook and Journal for Emotional Independence.

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